Hampa

 
It's been 3 years already, since we both agreed to have a mini trip around europe, but it was cancelled. Sad? Indeed, dumped me after those beautiful years. And now, told me she is getting married soon, don't know when exactly, but I am happy for you too.

No, I won't discuss about my love story right now, no mood. Let me tell you a story, in Indonesian language.

Panggil saja namanya Ari, mahasiswa komunikasi semester 5 di salah satu universitas terkenal di Jakarta, anak yang tampan, enerjik dan santun. Berasal dari keluarga baik-baik. Ari dibesarkan dengan ajaran agama yang kuat, tetapi dengan kehidupan Jakarta yang keras, pergaulan bebas Ari menjadi terjerumus dengan hal seperti itu.
Bukan masalah sebenarnya, walaupun begitu Ari tetap menjadi anak baik, favorit dosen dan teman-temannya.

Suatu hari Ari terbangun disebuah kamar hotel, tanpa sehelai kain menempel di badannya, dia membuka matanya dan menemukan Vera tertidur disebelahnya dibawah selimut, wanita cantik yang dia temui di club tadi malam. Dia pandangi Vera yang masih tertidur pulas, sambil bertanya kepada hatinya sendiri kenapa wanita secantik ini ingin tidur bersamanya. Dia cantik, mempunyai gelar sarjana, kenapa tidak jadi model atau pramugari saja? Daripada menjadi pemuas syahwat lelaki hidung belang seperti dirinya.

KRIIIIIINGGG.....

Alarm handphonennya berbunyi.
Ari mematikan alarm dan saat itu juga Vera hanya mendesah dan merubah posisi tidurnya, memunggungi Ari. Saatnya untuk Ari bekerja shift pagi ditempat dia magang.

Sudah hampir satu semester Ari menghiraukan panggilan telpon bapaknya, menurut dia, bapak hanya pengganggu, sedikit-sedikit telpon dan menanyakan kabar yang tidak penting.
Dalam hati terdalam, Ari sadar dia salah, tapi ego masih menyala dengan terangnya, dia beralasan "masih banyak urusan yang harus gue kerjain, toh si Andita masih bisa ngurus bapak, gue juga transfer bulanan walaupun gak banyak".

Ari masih menjadi mahasiswa cemerlang, pintar berbicara sehingga sering dijadikan MC pada berbagai event, kehidupan serba cukup walau ngekos masih bisa dia rasakan, nilai ujiannya selalu bagus, tapi dia merasa hampa.
Mengapa dia tidak bisa bahagia? Mengapa hanya dia bisa tersenyum dan tertawa lepas saat menjadi MC saat event tetapi raut sedih selalu muncul saat dia sendirian.

Ari hanya berharap jangan sampai ada Ari yang hampa lagi...

Surabaya, rainy day, 14 Ramadhan

Hi June!

Hi June!

With your presence it means that my happy birthday month disappeared. Well, it was amazing month, meet new people, new experiences, jumped here and there to work in several hospitals and clinics.
Yeah, I received so many gifts in May, have to say Alhamdulillah, and now I am confuse how to repay them lol.
How I am supposed to eat six cakes?

Besties

I didn't always celebrate my birthday with friends, but my 25th Birthday should be special because it's my silver birthday party, should be different, right?
At the end of May I got a chance to visit Jakarta (again), crowded city but a lot of good food stall there <3 a="" font="" have="" i="" list="" make="" next="" place="" to="" visit.="" visit="" which="">

I got a new violin and now I am confuse how to play it, it's difficult for me t play the basic. and also I got a HnM winter jacket and Tee, so fancy from my dearest Ibenk. (thanks man!)

I am thinking about to change my phone, but I don't know, should I? Xiaomi Redmi 4i, the problem is only in memory, only 16 GB no place for external memory.

You can see my photos in May, favorite photos!


Swimming with the gank

TRX with gym buddies

Selfie of Silvia


Just like a boyband, duh!

My favorite man! Amal Bastian

Aurat exposed lol!


Share Your Difficult Feelings With the One You Love

Having a partner who is willing to listen, and not judge, is a wonderful gift.



When things aren't going well in your world, are you the kind of person who talks about it, or do you push down your discomfort, so you can try to avoid thinking about your problems and feeling bad? 
Research has shown us that people who repress their feelings usually have a harder time dealing with life's disappointments. In addition, holding in painful emotions has been linked to illness and emotional distress (as a doctor i have to say YES!) It also sucks up a lot of time that could be used for much more pleasant activities.
Some people have great difficulty dealing with disappointment. And when additional things in life are troublesome, like problems in your relationship, those issues become magnified. That rush of emotions can easily throw anyone off course. The trick here is to concentrate on what stabilizes you and talk about your troubles with the people in your life who are care about you. They are usually readily available to talk, especially if they know that showing their concern in a conversation will help you during an emotionally challenging time.

They say talk is cheap, but it is really one of the most valuable things you can do to move your life forward and lessen your pain. It is also a true gift of friendship and love. When you take the risk of putting yourself out there to someone you trust, most often you’ll find yourself rewarded with some relief and perhaps some new ways of dealing with a problem that you’re having.
Truly, if you feel you have no one who will listen to what’s going on in your life, or no friend with whom you can talk about your difficulties, it is time you found someone. You can go to a licensed counselor or other helping professional. The hardest part may be picking up the phone and making an appointment.
Sometimes you want a different kind of emotional support, and that's perfectly fine. Just don't pour your heart out to a bartender. Finding a good support group would be much better. In that context, you’ll find other people dealing with similar issues to your own, so you won’t have to feel judged or alone.
Along these lines, when you are ready or you get the opportunity to share your feelings, it’s best to do it sober, because you will be unable to purge the pain if you are intoxicated. Alcohol is a drug that numbs our feelings, and while having a drink may seem appealing at times, it is not a lifestyle that will keep you healthy and feeling good about your world. Talking about your troubles over a glass of wine may seem like a good idea, but it really only works in the movies.
Unburdening your head and heart, or simply talking about what’s going on inside you, may be something you have thought of doing for some time but have been reluctant to try. Please consider how much you can lighten your life and the lives of those around you by using your words to gain clarity and release your pain. Give yourself that gift.
- Barton Goldsmith. Ph.D

Hi Blog!

No, I won't say sorry anymore, it's been almost three years I know.

Wait? Why do you want to write a journal again, Alle? (Alle? Yes, my nick name is Alle for now, but you still can call me Sal or Leh).
Let me tell you why.
Now I am officially a doctor, I am working in 2 hospitals in emergency departement, and in several private clinics. Yesterday my buddy Amal (MC, writer, traveller, news anchor) texted me, he asked me where's my hospital position and he wanted me to inject Vitamin C, we did it and saw his funny nervous face is priceless lol.
After that procedure, we sit together and chit-chat, about our friend, esthetic, and finally we talked about blog/web journal. He said by writing he balancing his life (or body? I just heard "balance"), don't know why I am thinking his words till the night, he is right! I have to write again!
So that's why I am starting to write again, fyi I forgot the password to open my blogger using google account, so randomly I typed the password many times and voila! I am in!

Just wait for another stories from my life in here, see ya!

How to get Netherlands Schengen Visa in Surabaya

Well, that was pretty easy to make that Schengen Visa, so here it's my experience:

I was interested to Neurology and Neurlogy Summer School in Groningen, I am so worry when I am going to make schengen visa, I opened several websites and blogs and they said it's difficult to make schengen visa, so hard, they'll make you mad, bla bla bla. THAT'S NOT TRUE!!!

Because I live in Surabaya, I applied that schengen visa in General Consulate of The Netherlands in Jl. Imam Bonjol No. 36, Surabaya - 60264 Telp. 031-5662409.

I don't have to tell you what's schengen visa because it's so much information about that in internet, you can find it by yourself.

Indonesian passport holder needs a visa to go to Schengen territory. Holder of Indonesian Diplomat and Service passport does not need a visa for maximum stay until 90 days.
For those who needs visa and want to go to Schengen territory can submit their visa application for short term maximal 90 days per 6 months, which valid for 26 Schengen countries. To submit this application you have to make an appointment via internet.

Visa can only be applied to the embassy where your main destination is. If you cannot decide where to go, the application can be apply to the country where your first entry is.
If you already have applied a visa but then you want to change the main destination, you have to inform this to the embassy where you submit your application.
By the point of entry, the immigration may ask you to show the documents that related to your main destination, financial means, info about the sponsor, hotel reservation, etc. Bring all documents that have been return by the embassy staff by the time you apply for a visa.
When it has been decide that you have to apply through The Netherlands representative in Indonesia, you can go to the embassy in Jakarta, consulate in Medan, Kuta and Surabaya. If you rmain destination is Belgia or Luxemburg, you can only apply the visa by the embassy in Jakarta.
Address of the embassy and consulates.
You can submit your visa application maximal 3 months before your departure date (the ideal time is 2 weeks before). If all the documents are complete and you already have appointment up to 10:30, in principle you can get the decision of your application by the afternoon. The application which is come after 10:30 will be decided the next day.
Documents needed for visa application
Below is the document that must be present in all visa application:
1. Passport
Passport should valid minimal 3 months by the time you leave the Schengen territory
2. Photo
Photo should in accordance with the requirement to apply for Netherlands passport. You can make a photo in the embassy based on the requirement.Click here.
3. Visa price
  • EUR 60 for people above 12 years old, paid in rupiah
  • EUR 60 for children between 6 - 12 years old, paid in rupiah
  • If the applicant will self-funded for this trip then he should have minimal €34 per day

  1. Sponsor in the Netherlands has minimum income and valid for 12 months in advance from the date of application. Check the link bellow to get the actual information about minimum income: http://.ind.nl/leges/tabel-normbedragen-voldoende-geld.aspx
  2. Financial prove can be shown from the copy of bank account / bank book for the last 3 months and / or salary slip for the last 3 months together with employment letter or registration prove from The Netherlands Chamber of Commerce
  3. Prove of hotel booking while you are in the Schengen territory
  4. Employment letter or prove of the ownership of a company (S.I.U.P.)
  5. If your sponsor lives in the Netherlands; then it should be completed with a legalized invitation by the municipality where the sponsor lives. You can get the invitation from the municipality where the sponsor lives;
  6. If your sponsor lives in Belgian; then it should be completed with a legalized invitation by the municipality where the sponsor lives (also known as attachment 3bis).You can get the invitation from the municipality where the sponsor lives;
  7. If your sponsor lives in the Netherlands; then it should be completed with a legalized invitation by the municipality where the sponsor lives and signed by the visa office in Luxemburg. You can get the invitation from the municipality where the sponsor lives;
  8. Private invitation letter from your sponsor explaining about the relationship between you and the sponsor and also information about who will responsible for the trip and for living cost during your stay.
  9. Your financial prove and / your sponsor; from the person who will cover your trip and the living cost during your stay (copy of bank book / the original bank book for the last 3 months / or the salary slip for the last 3 months)
  10. Copy passport and resident card of you sponsor and the husband / the wife and / or the family that you wish to visit
  11. Employment letter or prove of the ownership of a company (S.I.U.P.)
  12. Prove of hotel book (only when necessary)
  13. Documents that can prove the family relation
  14. The invitation from the sponsor (explanation about business relation, travel purpose and explanation about who will pay for the trip and the living cost during your stay)
  15. Employment letter or prove of the ownership of a company (S.I.U.P.)
  16. Original birthcertificate + copy
  17. Original marriage certificate / marriage book of the parents + copy
  18. Permission from the parent who is not traveling, legalized by Civil Register Office or by the notary
  19. Copy passport of the parent who is not traveling

  • If one or both parents were passed away: original death certificate +        copy
  • If the child custody was under one of the parent: original custody letter from the court + copy
  • Normal price: EUR 60 = RP 750.000,-
  • Children between 6 – 12 years old:EUR 35 = RP 400.000,- 

4. Application form
Completely fill in and two times signed ( on page 2 and page )
5. Travel insurance
Travel insurance should valid for the whole period in the Schengen territory with minimal coverage €30.000, - including medical insurance and repatriation cost. Copy of the insurance should be attached to the application and the original insurance should be shown to the embassy.
6. Financial prove
7. Flight reservation
On the flight reservation the departure date and return date should clearly state, but you don’t need to pay it first. We advise you not to pay it before your visa is granted
Submitted documents should be relevant with the travel purpose:
Tourism
Visiting family or friend:
Business:
NOTE! If the applicant is an under age children
Note: it is possible that you have to show the original documents above when you entering the Schengen territory
In the principle every applicant has to come in person. If you are a frequent traveler, you don’t have to come in person to apply. A frequent traveler is someone who has a valid USA, UK, Canada or Australia visa (not include electronic visa) or minimal he has used 2 Schengen visa correctly in the last 5 years. Please bring prove that you have said visa.